Research reveals something most people never consider: interview failures often stem from invisible signals you're sending that you cannot self-observe. When you're anxious during an interview, your body produces specific nonverbal behaviors that significantly lower the competence ratings interviewers assign to candidates.
Your identity has been built on being the reliable one. The one who delivers. The one who never says no. But after being publicly called a liar in front of your colleagues-despite having the data-something fundamental broke. Now you're questioning everything: your capabilities, whether you deserve your seat at the table, whether every manager has a hidden agenda.
But there's this other thing happening-the thing that makes your brain refuse to shut off at night. Your colleague walks by and asks, "How many calls have you done today?" And before you can answer, she's already telling you she's done twice as many. You feel it in your chest: I'm not good enough.
It's only later-maybe that evening when you're talking to someone you trust, or sitting alone replaying the conversation-that you realize: wait, that didn't make sense. That contradicted what they said last week. That wasn't reasonable.
You're back at work after your breakdown. You should feel relieved, grateful even. Instead, you're drowning. They've given you three major projects-complex ones, the kind that require deep strategic t
You send Marcus a message: "Hey, could you finish the quarterly report by Friday if you get a chance?" Friday arrives. Half the report is done. You don't follow up because you know he's been dealing w
You stay late again, correcting the errors in a report that wasn't yours to write in the first place. Your calendar shows back-to-back meetings tomorrow, but you know you'll somehow squeeze in three m
You've been here before. The initial improvements that felt so promising have dissolved. You're working every weekend again. The dizziness from too many sleepless nights has become your new normal. Yo
You've been trying so hard to keep things from getting worse. You check your weight. You monitor how your face looks. You review your work emails multiple times before sending. When your girlfriend cr
It's 11 PM. You're lying in bed, mentally running through tomorrow's audit tasks. Which items should you prioritize? Did you allocate the team's work fairly? Is there something critical you're forgetting? You tell yourself this is productive.
The heaviness starts the night before. Your chest tightens. Sleep becomes elusive, your mind already anticipating tomorrow's stress. By the time you arrive at work, you're on edge-waiting for something to go wrong, bracing for the next mistake.
You pull into the parking lot, and the tears start before you've even turned off the engine. Again. You sit there, gripping the steering wheel, asking yourself the same question you've asked a hundred times: What's wrong with me? Other people handle workplace uncertainty.
You know that feeling when you're completely exhausted from dealing with workplace stress, and someone says "just don't let it get to you"? Here's the uncomfortable question: What if the workplace stress isn't actually what's draining you most?
Your boss sends a message: 'Need a ballpark estimate on the Henderson project—can you get back to me within the hour?' You stare at the screen. You've never heard of the Henderson project. No scope. No requirements. No specifications. Nothing concrete to work from. And immediately, you feel it—that familiar tightness in your chest.
Someone at work was dismissive. Maybe aggressive. They twisted your words or refused to hear what you were actually saying. And now—three days later—you're still running the conversation through your mind. Why does one conversation ruin your whole week?
You're in a meeting. Someone unexpectedly calls on you as the technical expert on something you weren't prepared for. Suddenly your heart is pounding. You start sweating. Your vision narrows at the edges...
You've been doing it for 15 years now. Eight hours at work, where nothing ever matches the standard in your head. Production makes the same mistakes. Management sets impossible targets. You fix everything, again, while the frustration builds like pressure in a sealed container. Then you come home. Your wife knows the signs. Your kids disappear to their rooms.
After reading this page, the tactics that made you doubt yourself will become predictable patterns — so you will finally stop questioning your own sanity.
She offered support when your mother got sick. A week later, she threatened to dock your pay for visiting the hospital. And somehow, despite everything, you keep hoping. Here's why your brain keeps pulling the lever.
She offered support when your mother was rushed to hospital. For a moment—just a moment—you felt something shift. Maybe she finally sees you as a person, not just a resource to manage. Then she threatened to dock your pay for the same hospital visit.
They said everything was fine. Right up until they handed in their notice. If you're a business owner trying to build a culture where people actually share when they're struggling, you've probably read the standard advice. But after 27 years of clinical practice, I can tell you they're not enough.
Imagine a friend who agrees with everything you say. Every thought, every belief, every wild idea—validated without question. Available 24/7. Never judging. Never pushing back. Never telling you when you're wrong. Sounds helpful, right? Actually, for some people, it's destroying their grip on reality.
Picture this: You hire a career coach to fix your work stress, see a relationship therapist for marriage issues, work with a nutritionist for health goals, and consult a financial advisor for money problems. Each expert knows their field inside and out. Yet somehow, you're still struggling with the same underlying patterns across multiple areas of your life...
It's 6 PM on a Tuesday. The kitchen smells of roasted chicken and vegetables—a meal you chose specifically because your child ate it happily just last week. Your five-year-old takes one look at the plate and declares, "I hate chicken! I'm not eating this!" Your shoulders tighten. Your jaw clenches. Here we go again.
That wedding invite? It sat in Barbara's purse like a bomb. Just knowing it was there made her heart race. Her chest felt tight. Her sister was getting married in California...
Do you wake up feeling heavy, unmotivated, and dreading the day ahead? Morning depression is more common than you think, affecting millions of people...