‍So you've got a Difficult Family Member and you want to stop getting  trapped emotionally in his or her manipulative games.  In this article, I am going to be sharing one essential tip that can help you move towards achieving this.

Then at the end I will show you where you can download a 7 point check-list that

• Helps to ensure that you can turn your situation around by actively spotting when you are about to slip into survival behaviours that cause your DFM to manipulate and push you around emotionally. This way, you can stop the situation quickly before it drains you. 
  
  
• Using the check-list can help, guarantee that you know how to take a better, more relaxed/calm, down to earth approach, and change how you react instead of trying to change other people (whom you CANNOT change, by the way). 
  
  
• The check-list will help you make sure that you can stay calm, question everything, and spend your energy wisely (on the more important things in your life). This is so essential for retaining a perspective of life that helps you control your way of thinking. 
  
  
• It will help you guarantee that you can use your DFM's manipulation to your advantage and react in such a way that you can reach a positive outcome at least for yourself. 
  
  
• And lastly, This 7 point check-list will help ensure you know how to move on quickly from these energy sucking events. Sounds good? 
  
  Okay, let’s dig in. 

It had only been 3 months after her life threatening operation.  Fatima, found herself constantly feeling exhausted and in a lot of physical pain.  She was frustrated because her body was forcing her to do everything extremely slowly.

She knew how much had to be done for her 2 year old daughter and husband who was out working all the time, and felt massively guilty about this.

And, to make matters worse, her husband was piling pressure on her, insinuating that she was making herself become fat and useless by lazing around the house doing nothing.

I mean, can you believe it?

What do you do when a family member, who thinks they are helping you, but is actually making your life more difficult, doesn’t understand your struggle despite your best efforts to explain things to them?

How do you cope with:-

• Family who make you feel depressed and disrespected when you are around them.
• Family who don’t seem to realize that they are a big part of the pain you are going through. They say they care about you but you don't feel that way about them.
• Family who tell you that you’re over reacting to things all the time, and have the nerve to call you a big baby.

How do you cope with all of that?