Trauma is like a seed that grows into a plant. And just like plants need sunlight and water to grow, so does trauma.

In other words, Your trauma requires care and attention. The way you deal with past trauma will either fuel positive growth in life or sabotage it. This happens even if you don't know the trauma is there.

You see, most people spend their lives in emotional and physical pain that could have been avoided if only they had just gotten early treatment for their PTSD. They had not realized how much they had fashioned their lives to function around their PTSD symptoms.

And sometimes behaviours which they had come to recognize as their personality traits could be linked back to some abuse they endured, 20, 30, 40 or 70 years ago... If they had known what I am about to reveal to you now they could have lived a much more fulfilling life.

And as such, this article is aimed at helping you make necessary connections so you can fully know, once and for all if past traumas are at the root of your emotional problems.

Fair enough?

Let's go...

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🤓😎🎼🎧🥸Is it possible that what we perceive as emotional weakness...

Or inability to cope...

Is actually caused by our inability to self-soothe properly?🛌😎🎹.

I'll elaborate...

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A common reason for feeling inferior and not feeling successful is if you are always being criticized by others.

Unfortunately, what people who are massive critics don't realize is that their personal set of values and beliefs are not the only true and important values and beliefs in the world.

It is natural that values and beliefs are different from one person to another. Yes, you may share some values and beliefs. But you are bound to have values and beliefs that are different from people who are closest to you.

This is just part of the human journey.

But what do you do, if you are living with someone who never stops criticizing you?

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Many people don't realize that standard approaches to growth, development and progress cannot work if you struggle with emotional health difficulties.
Why?

You see, when asked...

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"We often get stuck on the feeling of being overwhelmed. We think it means we are broken. But in reality, we're simply being human." Adewale Ademuyiwa

Emotions can be like wild horses. They are strong and they demand attention.

When you are overwhelmed by negative emotions, it can seem that no matter how much energy you invest, you still cannot tame them. When they are angry, when they are sad, and when they are afraid, it is very hard to find a way to quiet them down.

Emotional hangovers can take those feelings and amplify them to such a degree that you find it almost impossible to move on from them.

In this article...

I’ll explain why emotional hangovers can be so overpowering, and I’ll show you the simple steps you can follow to break through and move on from the draining experience.

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The feedback we receive from people around us informs us of who we are. This can have a huge impact on our self-esteem.

If we feel loved, cherished, and cared for, we as a result feel valuable and worthwhile.

If we feel neglected and unloved by others, we can in turn feel valueless and worthless.

But why does this happen, and what can be done about it?

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If you look at nature, everything around you is in motion. The world is in motion. There is no stop for anything and so you must move too.

You cannot be in two places at once. So, to be effective, we need to find a balance between being active and passive, between being outgoing and staying in, and between having too much responsibility and not enough.

If we don’t find balance, we tend to feel anxious. We worry that we are not doing enough, we worry that we aren’t spending enough time with people, we worry about the things we have to do and we worry that we haven’t done enough.

In this article I’ll reveal techniques that you can use to help you stay calm and relaxed, whatever is going on around you. And to relieve your stress when things do get stressful, so you can remain effective.

Ready, let's dig in...

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Why would anyone want to use anger as motivation?

Did you know that anger and motivation share many common traits?

For example: Just like motivation...

• Anger pushes us to action

• When we are angry, we are focused on the present

• In fact, our attention is often consumed by one thing, one thought.

• Anger and motivation go hand-in-hand, so it is easy to be motivated to act on your anger.

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"One of the greatest discoveries of this generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind."

Adewale Ademuyiwa

This is an extremely important principle. Because of this principle, people can break free from the habits of the past and create a new life for themselves. Because of this principle, people can learn to stop living in fear and pain.

So beware of the choices you make about how you think of yourself.

You can choose to think about yourself in a positive light or a negative light. If you can learn to think positively about yourself, you will find it easier to face life's challenges, and your life will be less stressful and emotionally challenging.

To help you towards this goal, here are 49 self-compassion scripts to help you develop a loving sense of yourself and your life.

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What Is self-doubt?

Self-doubt is an insidious mental virus that infects our minds and often makes you feel like the decisions or actions you take will go wrong or that you are no good at something.

It is an inner feeling of inadequacy, insecurity, and negative thoughts that can really hold you back. In some people, this feeling of self-doubt becomes a habit and can be very debilitating.

You may find yourself questioning everything you do, always expecting to fail. Your confidence and self-belief may also be undermined by the fear of failure.

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The relationship between loneliness and depression has been established, loneliness is also associated with other serious health conditions including obesity, cardiovascular disease, cancer, diabetes and cognitive decline. Loneliness has also been linked to increased mortality. A recent study in the UK reported that loneliness in older people is associated with a 50% increase in overall mortality.

While there are no one size fits all cures for loneliness, there are some healthy coping mechanisms.

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Stressful situations are unavoidable. Whether it’s an exam, a presentation, a meeting, physical health, mental health issues or something else entirely, we all deal with stress differently. While it is important to recognize that everyone handles stress differently, there are some general principles that apply to anyone who is stressed out.

The first step in dealing with stress is

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in this article, you're going to learn the No.1 reason why everyone struggling with negative emotions should become a master of balance...

Sadly, almost everybody gets this wrong!

You see when it comes to dealing with your emotions... One of the biggest keys is finding the right balance in the things you do.

Many people try to overcome their emotional problems by becoming obsessed with achieving some change. They try to achieve some goal. But this causes them to lose sight of what is truly important.

They forget that life is about the journey, not the destinations. And during the journey, you got to make a lot of turns.

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Lack of self-awareness is like a blind man trying to drive a car. He can steer with his front wheels, but he has no idea where he will end up.

If you don’t know where you are going, how can you possibly know when you have arrived? And without a clear picture of who you are and where you are going, it is impossible to have any real sense of direction.

In the world of personal development, self-awareness is king.

Without it, it is almost impossible to make any progress whatsoever.

You see, if you do not understand where you are coming from, it is difficult (if not impossible) to go anywhere else. You will be mired in a sea of confusion and frustration.

On the other hand, once you develop a strong sense of self-awareness, everything else in your life will fall into place. It is almost like discovering a secret map that shows you the hidden pathways that connect the dots of your life.

Sadly so many people never learn this. They never discover the value of self-awareness. And thus, they spend a lifetime struggling.

In this article, I’m going to reveal how to use self-awareness activities to help you learn to become aware of your true self.

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Have you ever felt an overwhelming sadness… which caused your entire body to ache?

Or felt a crushing sense of despair that kept you from being able to sleep? Or a constant dull throbbing in your head that made you sick to your stomach?

The truth... Unresolved emotional pain can cause physical problems?

Why?

Because when you are stressed or 'stuck' in an emotion, your body 'shuts down' your immune system. leading to increased pain

That's why In this article, I'm going to show you how to heal emotional trauma and improve your quality of life. Ready to dive in...

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A positive mental attitude affects every area of your life and can dramatically change your chances of success in all aspects of your life. It is a handy psychological tool that allows you to look at problems differently.

It is a mindset that helps you deal with obstacles as opportunities instead of threats. A positive mental attitude is a critical ingredient in the formula for success.

There is a big difference between having a "positive mental attitude" and just being positive. A positive mental attitude is developed over time through consistent and focused practice.

In this article, I'll explain what it takes to develop a positive mental attitude and give you specific tips on how to achieve it successfully.

Let's dig in...

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Over-responsibility may have resulted from being blamed for a lot of things whilst growing up. It could also come from an experience of growing up too quickly due to family members needing to rely a lot on you at a very early age. Because there was no one was there to take on the parental role for you when you were a child.

You had no choice but to the on the responsible hat and become dad and mum for everyone. Sometimes even for your parents too.

Bottom line: Over-responsibility pressurizes you to take on more than you are responsible for because it has been ingrained in you through years of habit. But now it has become the thief stealing the energy and joy away from your life.

How can you break free of the over-responsibility chains, when you can't stop believing at your core that you should take care of everyone and everything, and never let anyone or anything suffer. What do you do when the guilt becomes excessive and intense that it makes your body hurt so badly?

In this article, I'm going to reveal why “over-responsibility” becomes a trap for most people... and 12 simple tips to easily avoid this trap.

Before I do that though...

First a few questions.

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Self-doubt can be a compelling, crippling force in your life.  It limits what you believe you are capable of accomplishing.   It evokes paralyzing fear, triggers anxiety, encourages loss of hope, and results in depression!

As you grapple with self-doubt, it can easily lead to a vicious cycle that becomes difficult to escape.

Why must you care about the content in today's article?

You see, self-doubt is one of those things in life that will only get worse as time goes on if you do nothing about it. And the result is an unfulfilling life where you never realize your dreams. And you're left with lots of regrets.

So if you would like to stop my fear from holding you back and you would love to stop living in fear of making mistakes all your life, then I believe these five creatives ways to dealing with self-doubt would undoubtedly be worth your time.

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When life throws you a curveball, it's easy to feel like you're not going to get back up.

But, it's hard to find the right words and thoughts that will give you strength through emotional pain. At that very moment, you need them.

That's why it's so important to have a few quotes to fall back on easily--quotes that can help bring you back to the centre, reminding you of what's important, and send you on your way again.

Here are 101 quotes that inspire, motivate, soothe, and provide light to a dark time. Memorize them. Share them. Share them again.

Carry them in your heart.

And, when you need to, let them light your way out of a tough time.  

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