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How to find happiness & fulfillment within yourself without meditation

At 3 AM, Samantha woke up tossing and turning.

She was struggling with hardcore destructive self-talk.

She tried to replace the negative self-talk with positive  self-talk like people keep telling her to do.

But it felt phony... It felt stupid and fake.

Sound familiar?

Ever had this constant nagging feeling like nothing you ever do will be good enough?

In today's article, I will be revealing a little-known and slightly unusual psychological trick to help you find, peace fulfillment and contentment without having to rely on mindfulness or meditation techniques.

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How to calm an overactive mind and worry less

How do you stop living in this constant state of worry?

Today's article has taken me over 14 years to write.

No kidding!

It condenses everything I have learned about overcoming uncontrollable and overwhelming worry habits.

And to make the advice super actionable, I've included a simple 4-point action plan...

With 6 time-tested ways to stop your mind from going 100 miles per hour all the time.

I've also included loads of real life examples to follow so it's easier to teach yourself how to stop worrying.

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The Myth About Antidepressants: Should you use them? Should you bin them?

The Myth About Antidepressants:
Should you use them...
Should you bin them?

They say that antidepressants ruin your brain, doing you more harm than good...

They say taking antidepressants means that you are not in control of yourself....

They say antidepressants are just part of the Big Drug Cooperation’s conspiracies to keep their companies funded with our hard-earned money...

There are SOOOO many different opinions about antidepressants that you easily become paralyzed wondering...

 “Are antidepressants GOOD for me or NOT?”

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Coming off antidepressants after 10 years?

The only way to get off them without risking getting depressed again

So, here's the scenario..

Your doctor has agreed to wean you off your antidepressants and is now reducing your dose.

Now you'r worried...

How do you ensure you don't relapse back into depression once the antidepressant is no longer supporting you?

Do you achieve this by sheer will power...

Or by following a precise set of practical steps?

If your experience has been that you always relapse whenever you come off your antidepressants. Is there some vital information you are missing out on?

In this article, I'll be sharing my go to strategies for making sure that you can sustain an enjoyable and fulfilling lifestyle without getting depressed again after coming off antidepressants.

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How to stop being paranoid that everyone hates you

Have you heard this annoying useless advice before?

They say...

“Only an insecure person, who doesn't know who they are and is scared to be themselves is afraid of other people thinking badly of them.”

Then they say…

“If you can just do what you want and stop caring about what others think, you’ll nip this fear at its roots.”

Yeah right!

As if it is that easy.

First of…

Would you tell pedophiles, murderers and rapists to do what they want and not care about what others think?

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How to stop fear from ruling your life and impacting your mental health

Are you afraid of everything?

I don't mean fear of spiders, needles or things like that.

But rather, do you spend a ton of time feeling afraid of "what ifs?"

You worry about feeling anxious.

You worry about feeling weak.

You worry about feeling stupid if any of the things you fear should happen. And sadly, this dictates your happiness and well-being.

As an example, let’s say...

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When you believe everyone's life would be easier if you were dead

Do you feel like a burden to everyone in your life?

You think things would be easier for your loved ones if you were not around.

Perhaps because you're always depressed or anxious.

You have to depend heavily on your family and this makes you feel useless.

Or perhaps you feel so fragile that the prospects of going out, getting a job and holding the job down terrifies you.

And so, you feel like there's no way out of your negative circumstances. Hence you feel hopeless.

True...

It's hard when it feels like you're jammed in a corner and there's no way forward.

But can I be honest with you for a second?

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Why setting boundaries in relationships can help you avoid depression

Is it selfish to prioritize yourself? Do you always feel like your priority is to others?

And when you are depressed...

You feel like you should be well for them, so they don't get worried about you.

But did you know there is an emotional danger to this?

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When you always blame yourself for not coping

Do you blame yourself for struggling to cope?

You see yourself as a failure for not being the person you want to be. Because this is not the life you want to live.

But did you know that blaming yourself naturally sabotages your ability to cope?

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When social anxiety threatens to ruin your life

The fastest way to beat social anxiety is to train your brain to do three things slightly differently.

And once you become an expert at this, you'll be able to switch social anxiety off in under 3 minutes

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How to conquer your fear of not being good enough

If you constantly hold yourself to a high standard and just hone in on the negative aspects of yourself all the time...

Here's how you overcome your fear of not being good enough:  (A simple 3-step system to gain a deep lasting sense of self-worth)

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How to get out of depression in just 1 hour

3 simple but powerful tips that can shorten your depressive lows to as little as 1 hour.

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I've failed at life: When mental health ruins your ambition and kills your self-esteem

The biggest problem with feeling like a failure is that it closes out all options in your mind.

And that’s why in today's article I will be revealing three hidden traps that lock you in a life of failure because of your mental health struggles. And then I will share six insanely practical tips for ensuring that your failures will never define you or limit your progress in life ever again.

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When you can't stop thinking about suicide

It’s a nightmare really…

You know when you get those intrusive thoughts of hanging yourself, jumping in front of a speeding train, taking an overdose, etc.

And these thoughts come to your mind like it's a solution. Even though you know you won't do anything, because you still have that rational part of you picturing how and who will find you lying there. And how their lives will be violated if you take that solution.

Yet you can't stop thinking about suicide. You think about it all the time.

So, how do you stop the nightmare?

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3 mental health slip-ups that beat you into a crippled shell of yourself

You know that feeling?

Like you could cave in at any moment.

Feeling fearful and tired at the same time.

Consumed with the fear of failure but having no urge to be productive.

You want friends but at the same time you hate socializing. You want to be left alone but you can't bare feeling lonely.

You worry about everything but at the same time you care about nothing. Feeling everything at once, then feeling paralyzingly numb.

You want to scream. You want to cry.

But you know that if you don't hold an even keel, it's not just you that suffers if you can't keep it together.  . 

Your family, your kids and work colleagues will become victims too. 

This all leaves you wondering...

Will I ever be able to function like a normal person?  

Heart wrenching isn’t it? 

And unless you’ve experienced it before, you can’t understand how devastating this can be.

But will you permit me to be honest with you for a second?

The honest truth…

The real reason you are not coping well or functioning effectively is this.

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36 crazy good habits that (surprisingly) crank up your anxiety and depression

Do you recognize any of these habits in yourself? Could they be why  you keep relapsing?


Ever wished you could take a holiday from life?

A holiday that resets everything.

Because you know the only way you can go forward is to have some kind of reset button.

You can see what you are now. You can see what’s brought you here.

You've been through a lot in life, had a lot of bad times. And now you are battling anxiety and depression every single day.

But you can’t put back the clock.

You can’t go back and change what you've become.

You see, anxiety or depression on their own can be energy draining, but when they feed off each other, you simply lose the will to live. 

And it's worse, when you’ve had to fight these two demons every day for years, trying every medication and every therapy and nothing works.

I mean, how much pain can one person be expected to tolerate?

What is the point? What is the way out?

Are there any answers?

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Depression Management: WARNING! Ignore these 5 tips at the risk of relapse

So you would like to  avoid the repeating relapses.

I'll be honest with you, when struggling with depression, achieving all that progress in recovery and maintaining it is really difficult.

However, although its difficult, we can't hide from the fact that there are people who have been able to maintain recovery from their depression.

So what are they doing differently?

Here is a feedback from one of my clients who was depressed from her early teenage years. She was also diagnosed with dyslexia and had some back pain issues too.

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"The sessions have helped me to stop over analysing everything.  I am now not getting overly stressed, which has had the effect of helping me manage my depression better. I have been able to wean myself off my antidepressants, obviously with my doctor’s guidance.Now for the first time in ten years I have been off my antidepressants for almost a month, and I am still feeling better than I have ever felt in a long while. In the past my depression would come back with full force within just one week of stopping my meds.What’s strange is that my anxiety is also reduced even though I have been stressed beyond belief. My sleep has improved too..."

Now over to you...

My belief is that this type of recovery from depression is not just for "a select few."  

I believe anyone can achieve this once they know the system to follow.

So in this article on depression management, I will be taking you through a five part video series on a system  for managing depression better so you too can a have a chance to start avoiding those repeated relapses.

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How to stop a manipulative family member from draining you emotionally

‍So you've got a Difficult Family Member and you want to stop getting  trapped emotionally in his or her manipulative games.  In this article, I am going to be sharing one essential tip that can help you move towards achieving this.

Then at the end I will show you where you can download a 7 point check-list that

  • Helps to ensure that you can turn your situation around by actively spotting when you are about to slip into survival behaviours that cause your DFM to manipulate and push you around emotionally. This way, you can stop the situation quickly before it drains you. 

  • Using the check-list can help, guarantee that you know how to take a better, more relaxed/calm, down to earth approach, and change how you react instead of trying to change other people (whom you CANNOT change, by the way). 

  • The check-list will help you make sure that you can stay calm, question everything, and spend your energy wisely (on the more important things in your life). This is so essential for retaining a perspective of life that helps you control your way of thinking. 

  • It will help you guarantee that you can use your DFM's manipulation to your advantage and react in such a way that you can reach a positive outcome at least for yourself. 

  • And lastly, This 7 point check-list will help ensure you know how to move on quickly from these energy sucking events. Sounds good? 

    Okay, let’s dig in. 
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How to cope when a bully is destroying your confidence at work

How do you cope with a co-worker...

Who's always dominating and bullying you!

Especially when many people have resigned because of this one person. And it seems everyone, even upper management is afraid to do anything about them.

And because of this one co worker, you feel exhausted, stressed and miserable all the time. You can't eat, you are scared of making mistakes and when you do make mistakes It simply crushes you.

One of our readers asked this question.

"Hey Adewale,

I have a co-worker I must work with who dominates and bullies me. 

It is causing me much distress. He has power and has had several other colleagues fired because of his behaviour. I need the job, and It is making me sick.

Upper management is fully aware and is not prepared or equipped to do anything.

This guy is a specialist who has skills not easily replaced and has worked for the company for many years already. Others before me in my position have left because of this guy or have been fired because of conflict with him or due to poor work performance because this guy undermines you.

Any suggestions?"

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When something positive and even enjoyable becomes the source of major stress - Are you making this mistake too?

It just sneaked up on me. I did not see it coming and then
BANG!

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for your patience and
for still staying with us this long.

So what was the BANG I just mentioned about?

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