Are you missing out on opportunities for promotion?

Unable to Improve your performance at work, accelerate your career progression, and realize your full potential as a professional all because you are dull at socializing.

The truth is that adult life places a lot of focus on socializing... Probably way too much!

This means that a moron with good social skills is going to be promoted all the way to the top, while the people with bad social skills stay at the bottom, no matter how good they are.

I know, it’s weird….

But sadly, that’s the way the world is.

Now you might think your poor social skills are because:

• You’ve always had a shy and anxious personality and that you are really inadequate and weak.
• You haven’t found the right therapy/resources to help you improve your social confidence and interaction skills.
• You overthink every minor interaction into oblivion thinking you may have gotten into trouble.

But the truth is that you have not applied enough focused attention on learning confidence and emotional stability skills that are specific to your needs.

This is the only way to stop your brain from going into flight or fight mode at moments when you need to be calm, present, engaged, and professional.

Let me use an analogy to help you understand.

Imagine you are a footballer who has perfect dribbling skills. But whenever you try to score, your mind gets preoccupied with all the “what if’s” and you always end up kicking the ball way off… Never at the goal post.

How are you going to resolve this problem?

You just won’t spend the time re-learning and practicing all the football skills you are already good at because it makes you feel better about yourself. Nor would you spend the time practicing all the football skills known to mankind.

No…

First, you’ll focus on identifying the specific skills that will enable you to shoot the ball into the post.

Secondly, you’ll practice these specific skills until they become second nature.

Then thirdly, you’ll use your new well-honed skills to score goals to your heart's content. No longer hindered by fear, because your emotional muscle memory has taken over.

In order to improve your social confidence and emotional stability so you can improve your performance at work, accelerate your career and realize your full potential in your profession, you need to do the same.

You need to follow these three steps.

Step 1: Demolish self-limiting beliefs

The most important confidence and emotional stability skill to master is knowing “how to get out of your own head within split seconds.”

I’ll elaborate…

You may think that people will ridicule you if you tell them your ideas. They’ll judge the way you walk… They’ll laugh at your voice… They’ll whisper around about your lack of social experience… Or maybe they’ll think you're not smart or good enough to waste time on.

So, you spend all your time trying hard to not get noticed and put on the spot.

On the surface, this feels helpful because you are protecting yourself from embarrassment…

But in reality…

What this does is to enclose you in your own shell. Limiting you with negativity that cripples you with anxiety whenever you can’t escape team meetings or work events.

Why?

Because hiding from the limelight for so long trains your brain to believe that this is the safest thing to do in those situations so it sends your body into alert. Just as if you have seen a dangerous snake.

And once this happens, you’ll lose control of what your body does. Making you liable to do or say something stupid that draws everybody’s attention to you in a bad way.

However, once you get well-practiced at focusing out of your head, this will naturally diffuse a huge amount of your anxiety. You will feel empowered to be present in the room. You will feel able to listen to what people are saying which then improves your ability to contribute confidently and intelligently.

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Step 2: Achieve painless interaction

The #2 most important skill Is learning how to overcome any interaction obstacle using “baby steps.”

You see, the second biggest obstacle, if you’re an introvert, is learning how to translate your inner mind into actual sentences that you can speak out loud.

But the truth is that this only becomes an obstacle if you make the most common mistake everyone struggling with social anxiety makes.

What’s this mistake?

The mistake is that, in your attempts to communicate and interact, you spike your anxiety sky-high by taking too big a bite.

And the heavy impact this has on your nervous system is similar to what happens when a newbie who’s never done any weight lifting before, overdoes it by carrying massive weights beyond his ability for far too many reps.

Doing this pushes you into overwhelm, sleepless nights, and panic attacks.

But when you take baby steps by giving yourself small interaction goals. Like saying just one hello here and one good morning there… And then gradually build up your interaction from there…

You totally bypass your brain's fear centers. And pretty soon you will find yourself having intricate and complex conversations. Wondering why this was ever a problem for you before.

Step 3: Level up your confidence

If you have done everything correctly in steps 1 and 2 above, you should now be experiencing some really good results.

Sadly though, this is where most people fall for a third confidence destroying trap they never see coming.

Here’s a quick story to illustrate this trap…

After succeeding at steps 1 and 2 described above, Glen (a former client of mine) reveled in his success. He was starting to feel a bit more like a normal person when in one fell swoop, his work world got turned upside down.

Everything got restructured.

He was moved from his cozy 3 people room to a noisy, smelly 12 people room.

And as if that was not bad enough, he had to sit near his incredibly negative boss who constantly oozed complaints, stress, and frustration.

Before long, Glen fell back into the crack, lost his confidence, and concluded that the happiness and contentment he felt before was just a fluke…

He was a failure… And would always be a failure.

Bringing this back to you...

There is a fundamental law in life that all problems consist of varying degrees of difficulties.

Some difficulties will be easier and some difficulty will be harder.

This is no less true for social situations as it is true for math.

So, you enter a new job… Now you have to deal with new people and learn new ways of doing things.

Or you get a promotion in the same company… Now you have to deal with confronting difficult employees.

And if you ignore this fundamental law, every new difficulty or obstacle you encounter will make you feel like you’re failing all over again. You’ll conclude that you are the problem and this will drive up your anxiety over and over, completely destroying your confidence.

How can you avoid falling into this confidence destroying trap?

Here’s how…

Instead of lamenting the loss of comfort, security, and safeness you had grown accustomed to.

Look at your new experience as if you are moving into the next level of a computer game.

You’ve completed game level 1. Now it’s time to tackle the more difficult level 2.

When you consider your social difficulties this way, you’ll stop blaming yourself as the source of failure.

Instead, you’ll see all your new obstacles as opportunities for growth. Opportunities to build upon what you have learnt already.

This helps to strengthen your brain muscles to deal with more turbulent social situations. Giving you the power to take back control of your life from the fear that once ruled you.

How to take back control of your life

Isn’t that amazing!

No matter how bad your social anxiety, these three steps will demolish your self-limiting beliefs, help you achieving painless interaction and help you Level up your confidence

But don’t just take my word for it.

Here's a testimonial from a former client...

Aron used the same process to overcome his social anxiety at work.

Read what he had to say…

"After I got the promotion, I began to overthink everything… I could not stop myself… I hoped the anxiety would go away. I was massively frustrated with myself. Depressed because my wife had just had a baby and they were both relying on the money I was bringing in... Fighting hard to stop myself from cracking. I couldn't stop thinking that I would get sacked if I couldn't pull myself together as my position at work is critical to the smooth running of the stores.

Now my anxiety is no longer nonstop. I still do worry but it's no longer overpowering. I am able to put things in perspective and hold my composure professionally… I might get a little blip of emotions that last a few minutes, but it's nowhere as bad as it used to be, and it does not scare me anymore because I know what to do to feel better.

And that’s how Aron took back control of his life.

You can achieve a similar victory to!

If you would like to improve their job performance and accelerate career progression by improving your social confidence and emotional stability in the shortest amount of time...

Feel free to send me a email me for a free 30 mins strategy session at exrovite@stresstherapist.net. And I will develop a personalized plan with you to help you take back control of your life from this tenacious progress limiting problem.

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