What do you do when you no longer trust your instincts?

Perhaps because no matter how many times you try to change things, in the end you fail and feel more negative about yourself.

You don’t want to spend the rest of your life feeling inferior to everyone else.

But you're never able truly feel good about yourself...

What can you do to become a happy, positive person full with desire and motivation? Someone who knows how to handle things without being too serious about it. Someone who doesn't overthink every small thing and get overwhelmed by it.

In this article I will be revealing a simple but powerful strategy for overcoming low self-worth and boosting your emotional stability to handle anything life throws at you.

The number 1 trap that destroys your self-worth and kills off your emotional stability

You see, there is a fundamental trap most people seem blind to.  

This trap determines the direction of your life. It determines how confident you feel. It determines the choices you make and controls everything you do.

If you've tried to change your life for the better but instead your life gets so bad that you don’t have the capacity in your head to cope and move forward with things…

Then there’s a 99% chance you've fallen for this trap.

To help highlight what this trap is, here's a question…

In your life, do you bail the water out, or fix your holes?

I’ll elaborate.

Imagine you're stuck on a boat. This boat represents your capacity to survive life... it represents your self-worth and represents your emotional stability.

 Now your boat has sprung a hole and is beginning to sink, so I come along and give you two choices.

Choice 1. I'll give you a bucket to bail the water out and…

Choice 2. I'll show you how to plug the whole and give you the tools to do it.

Which option would you take?

Most likely option 2 the more permanent solution. That's the more sensible option... isn't it?

Sadly, with our emotional health, we've been brainwashed into relying solely on bailing the water out. Like my client Stacey who wanted to feel contented, fulfilled and useful in her life.  But she had too many obstacles in the way.

Sadly, to deal with these obstacles, Stacey’ relied on strategies that were more like bailing water out. Making all her problem worst without even realizing she's doing this.

But the impact of this was that she felt like a repetitive failure.  She felt useless and her self-worth hit rock bottom. Because was convinced that she was no good at managing life.

How good things can create bad outcomes

To illustrate how Stacey fell into this bailing water out trap, one obstacle Stacey had was feeling unlikable.

And to address this, Stacey made sure that she was easy to get along with. She sacrificed her wishes for what her friends wanted.

When they said let’s go to the cinema, she would say yes when really she wanted to stay home and have some quite time.

And this worked.

Sacrificing her personal desires helped her keep her friends, but sadly, doing this didn’t resolve her feelings of being unlikable.

In fact it made those feelings worse because she now believed the only reason her friends stayed around was because she did what they wanted. They didn't really like her for herself.

How does this all relate to you?

And what ways are you reacting to your problems that's just like bailing water out and making things worse?

The ultimate rule for building emotional resilience and boosting self-esteem

You see, if overused anything that gives you enjoyment, peace and security will lead to stress anxiety, depression and any other mental health problems.  

Relying too much on anything no matter how positive or helpful that thing feels is like baling water out of your life.

This is the trap that keeps you stuck in negative life loops. This is the trap that worsens your problems, fostering low self-worth and promoting emotional health problems.

If you are struggling with low self-esteem or any emotional health problem, I can guarantee you 100% that this is because you are relying too much on some positive or helpful thing.

And the only way to prevent this trap from keeping you stuck and ruining your life experiences is to get good at pinpointing the positive things you rely too much on and start to rely less on them.

For Stacey this took the form of occasionally saying no can we do what I want this time.

And from doing this, Stacey was shocked to discover that her friends still stayed her friend. This boosted her sense of self massively.

How to take back control of your life from difficult emotions

Now granted this solution just affected a small area of her life, but applying this process to all the different areas of our lives like building blocks will start to help build confidence in yourself and your decisions.

It will start to free you from your emotional distress.

But just in case you are still doubtful that the problems and strategy described here applies to you. You can check out my article on 36 positive habits that crank up your anxiety and depression. This article reveals all the types of emotional problems caused by this trap.

I really wish you will start to take advantage of this strategy in all different areas of your life so you too can start to create positive cycles that make emotionally stronger.

It becomes a system that makes you more resilient without necessarily needing to rely too much on medication to survive life.

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