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Healthy coping mechanisms for loneliness (An ultimate guide)

What is chronic loneliness?

Chronic loneliness is more than feeling alone. It is a condition of being lonely for a long period of time, usually in a social context.

This means that you feel lonely on a regular basis. Loneliness is a form of isolation, and you can't simply overcome by connecting with others or interacting with those who are already around you.

If you struggle with chronic loneliness, then you may even find that social interactions are no longer a source of comfort or pleasure. Instead, social interactions  feel stressful, frustrating, and lonely. This is because their attempts to connect with others are met with the fear of rejection, and it feels like there is no way to feel better about their situation.

Health effects of social isolation loneliness

Loneliness matters for physical health and mortality.

While the relationship between loneliness and depression has been established, loneliness is also associated with other serious health conditions including obesity, cardiovascular disease, cancer, diabetes and cognitive decline. Loneliness has also been linked to increased mortality. A recent study in the UK reported that loneliness in older people is associated with a 50% increase in overall mortality. 

While there are no one size fits all cures for loneliness, there are some healthy coping mechanisms which will be exploring throughout this article. 

But Is loneliness a mental health problem?

Loneliness may have a mental health problem at its roots, but the symptoms of loneliness often overlap with other physical health issues too. It is common to become isolated after a health crisis. 

According to Mind UK, feeling lonely isn't in itself a mental health problem. 

"Loneliness is a normal human experience and people vary in how they cope with it. Loneliness can be caused by living alone or by a lack of family contact. It can be caused by being single, widow or widower. It can be caused by being socially isolated. Sometimes people are just born to be loners."

There are several things we can do to help our loneliness, including having a close relationship with friends and family, talking to others about your feelings, keeping in touch with your local community, volunteering and getting involved in your local church or other religious community.

It is important to know the signs of loneliness and take steps to change your situation. There are three categories of loneliness: social, psychological and spiritual. Here are the signs of each.

Your feelings of loneliness matter: How loneliness feels to us…

We all feel lonely sometimes. It's a natural human emotion.

But being alone is not the same as feeling lonely. In fact, studies suggest that loneliness can actually make you unhealthier.

And the good news is that there are things we can do to combat loneliness. In this post, I’ll show you a few ways to combat loneliness.

First, let’s talk about how loneliness feels. As humans, we’ve been socialized to interact with other people. When we don’t, we’re left with our own thoughts and emotions. So, we all feel a little different when we’re alone.

Some people feel frustrated, sad, or angry. For others, it can be anxiety or even loneliness.

When we feel lonely, we start to feel anxious, which can lead to more feelings of isolation.

 

Beneficial effects of lonliness

Whilst loneliness can be hard to deal with, a small degree of social isolation can actually be beneficial to your mental health. 

Being lonely can sometimes help keep your stress levels in check because you don't have to deal with explaining things to people. 

This can give a much needed time out from talking about everything and allowing you to recharge your batteries.

it can also give you some much-needed room for self-reflection and planning.

Whilst this might be a positive thing for your overall mental health, it doesn't mean you should always be lonely. Whilst this might be a positive thing for your overall mental health, it doesn't mean you should always be lonely.

Want to break free of loneliness? Here are 20 types of Isolation traps to avoid

Some of the major reasons people experience loneliness include: 

1) Interpersonal isolation:

This is a very real problem, especially if you don't have friends. People who feel lonely find themselves getting stuck in their own thoughts and not talking to others. In addition, loneliness is related to social anxiety, and if you are socially anxious, you might not be able to approach people or have the confidence to talk to someone new. Even if you are outgoing, you might not want to initiate conversations with strangers. This is why it is important to make new friends or rekindle friendships with old ones.

2) Intrapersonal isolation:

This type of isolation occurs when an individual feels lonely inside, rather than feeling isolated from other people. People who suffer from intrapersonal isolation often feel isolated and emotionally disconnected from other people, even when they are surrounded by others. They may not feel like they belong anywhere or that they are a part of the world. They may have difficulty forming healthy friendships or maintaining close personal relationships. They may believe that they are an oddity or misfit in the world and that no one likes them. They may believe that others are self-centered and uncaring.

3) Existential isolation:

Existential isolation is experienced by people who are not satisfied with their lives or their circumstances. They may not feel as though their life has purpose or direction. They may feel like they are going through the motions and that nothing matters. This can cause feelings of hopelessness and depression. Some people with existential isolation believe that their existence is meaningless and pointless. Other people with existential isolation feel depressed because of this.

4) Occupational isolation:

In this type of isolation, you may feel isolated from your coworkers, your boss or your job. Your sense of belonging may feel diminished. Again, this is a very real problem and you may be tempted to "self isolate," so that you are not bothered by the other people around you. However, it is important to remember that loneliness is contagious, and being around other people who are lonely will only increase your feelings of isolation. If you are feeling overwhelmed or depressed, you may avoid going to work or going out of your way to talk to others. If you are an introvert, your coworkers may be able to tell that something is wrong, and may try to be kind. It is important to remember that there is nothing wrong with you, and you should be able to talk about what is bothering you with those around you. Remember, loneliness can be overcome if you have the right tools and are willing to put in the effort.

5) Physical isolation:

People who are physically isolated feel like they have lost a sense of community and belonging. They might feel like they are a member of a specific group of people, but they do not feel like they are a part of the world. They might feel alone and disconnected from everyone around them. They may feel as though they don’t have friends or family. This might be caused by living in an area where there is little to no contact with other people or by being isolated because of a disability, illness, or physical handicap. It could also be due to living in a rural area or an area with poor public transportation.

6) Emotional isolation:

These people feel isolated from their emotions. They may feel as though their emotions are locked up inside and cannot be expressed. They may feel that they are too shy or that they are not good at expressing their feelings. They may feel like their emotions are not understood by other people. They may feel that other people do not care about their feelings.

7) Environmental isolation:

Sometimes, people feel isolated because of the environment in which they live. They may feel disconnected and disconnected from their home or community because of their surroundings. They might not be able to enjoy the beauty of their surroundings. They might feel that they do not fit in and do not have friends. This can happen if they have moved into a new neighborhood or a new town. They may feel like they do not belong in their current environment. They might feel that their community is not welcoming or that it is not safe.

8) Financial isolation:

Some people feel isolated because of financial difficulties. They may feel that they do not have enough money to provide for themselves and their family. They might feel that they have to work multiple jobs just to cover basic expenses. They might feel that they have little chance of saving for the future. They may feel that there is nothing they can do to change their situation.

9) Spiritual isolation:

Some people feel isolated because of their spiritual beliefs. They might feel that they are not good enough or that they are not doing the right thing. They may feel like their religious beliefs are not accepted by others. They may feel that they have to go against their own beliefs. They might feel as though others look down on them.

10) Social isolation:

Some people are isolated because of their social habits. They might feel as though they have no close friends or family. They might feel that they are not interested in making new friends. They may feel like they have no one to turn to. They might feel that they do not understand people. They might feel that other people are cold and uncaring. They might feel that they are too busy for people.

11) Medical isolation:

This is usually caused by illness or disability. It can affect anyone, regardless of age, sex, race, religion, sexual orientation, disability, and nationality. Some people feel like they are trapped inside because of an illness or injury

12) Spousal isolation:

In this situation, you are often left to yourself. In fact, sometimes your spouse/partner may be the one to leave the house to go on an errand or to work. In this case, it is vital that you talk to your spouse/partner about how you are feeling. Tell them you are lonely and that you need them to be a part of your life. In the long run, your relationship may suffer because of the lack of interaction. If you feel that your partner is isolating you from them, then it is time to take steps to remedy the situation. Maybe you have been feeling ignored or unappreciated, so make a plan to show them how much they mean to you. Try doing things together, such as planning a date night or going to dinner.

13) Social media isolation:

In this case, you have chosen to be alone on social media. You have chosen to live on the Internet rather than in reality. The good news is that you can make changes. Just because you are in social media doesn't mean you cannot connect with others. You can go to meet ups, go to parties and make sure that you have offline friends. In the end, though, it is important that you keep in contact with people you know, and in the real world. Make sure to reach out to your Facebook and Twitter friends if you feel that they could use your help. You can even start posting videos to YouTube if you are feeling creative. You may not feel comfortable talking to people face to face, but with technology, you can reach out.

14) Loneliness without a cause:

This type of isolation is not necessarily caused by a lack of social contact or meaningful interpersonal relationships. It is caused by emotional distress and a sense of sadness. Individuals may be able to connect with other people, but their mood is not happy. They may be lonely, sad, and hopeless. They may not feel happy, or hopeful, or connected with other people. They may not like themselves or believe that they are lovable.

15) Inadequate support:

This type of isolation is sometimes called “socially inadequate support.” This occurs when a person’s ability to function in society is impaired by lack of social support. People who are experiencing this type of isolation may feel isolated, depressed, and alone. They may feel that no one is there to help them. They may believe that they are not capable of helping themselves. They may believe that nobody cares about them. They may think that they are a burden to others. They may feel guilty about the problems they are facing. They may be afraid of being judged by other people.

16) Mental/emotional/spiritual isolation:

This type of isolation occurs when a person is overwhelmed with stress, grief, or fear. They may feel angry and sad. They may have low self-esteem. They may be depressed. They may be worried about things in their life. They may have thoughts about suicide. They may be afraid of dying.

17) No connection with the self:

This type of isolation occurs when a person has lost the ability to trust in or appreciate the value of themselves. This can occur when a person has been injured in some way, or has a serious illness or disability. They may feel like they are not worthy of caring for, and they do not want to care for, themselves.

18) Unclear purpose or no direction:

This type of isolation occurs when a person does not know what their purpose in life is. They may have lost their way. They may be aimless. They may have an unclear purpose or goals for the future. They may not have a clear path forward in life.

19) Lacking positive support:

This type of isolation occurs when a person lacks friends, relatives, or colleagues with whom to share experiences. They may be isolated from the activities and conversations of people around them. They may feel cut off from the world. They may have trouble getting along with people. They may be suspicious of others. They may have trouble trusting people. They may not be able to make meaningful and lasting connections. They may feel like an outsider.

20) Not having a reason to live:

This type of isolation occurs when a person lacks any reason to go on living. He or she may be depressed, suicidal, or angry. They may have lost a loved one or friend. They may be dying from a terminal disease. They may be trapped in a bad marriage. They may be incarcerated. They may be in the middle of a divorce. They may be grieving the loss of a pet. They may be sick. They may be physically disabled. They may have a long-term illness. They may be lonely because of a physical disability.

20) No hope: This type of isolation occurs when a person has lost the hope of finding joy or meaning in life. They may be disillusioned. They may feel helpless. They may feel like a failure. They may be pessimistic. They may have trouble trusting in the world. They may have trouble believing that anything good can happen. They may have given up on living. They may have given up on loving

Loneliness and the need for intimacy

Humans need physical contact, not only emotional and social. They need to feel connected, to be touched. Our brains are wired for it.

This is why people who are lonely often have a hard time handling it. They seek intimacy and connection in places they never anticipated. When they cannot find it, they often go looking for it in unhealthy ways.

Loneliness breeds an almost unquenchable thirst for human interaction. And that means people might turn to sex. Or drugs. Or alcohol. These are ways to deal with the pain of being alone.

Coping with transitions in loneliness

Transitions in loneliness are inevitable. these are the moments in your life where you have to say goodbye to a familiar place and hello to a new one. These can be incredibly difficult for anyone. They are even more challenging for people who feel isolated and lonely. As a matter of fact, the number of lonely people has doubled over the past 20 years.

In times of transition, you can turn to your peers and loved ones for support. However, this may be especially true if your family has also experienced a loss, and you feel they are not there for you. Even if you don’t talk about it, you are probably experiencing a similar pain to your friends and relatives.

How to overcome loneliness without friends

The way to do this is to surround yourself with people who share your values. This can be done through online connections and real-life social activities.

If you’re single, find other single people and hang out with them. You’ll get to know each other better and make new friends. When you go to social events, bring a friend or make an effort to introduce yourself to someone new.

Remember, your loneliness is not a problem; it’s an opportunity.

There are several different sites that focus on helping people connect with other people around the globe, such as Facebook, LinkedIn, and Twitter. Although it may seem like a good idea to meet new people through online chat rooms or group messages, in reality, this method of connecting only works if there is something in common between you and the person you are trying to contact. As a result, you will probably find yourself spending time with people who have little or no interest in what you do, which leaves you feeling empty and lonely.

how to deal with loneliness and rejection

The fear of rejection is deeply ingrained in our psyche. It's a part of being human.

It's hardwired in the brain, as part of the fight or flight response. It's why we're more afraid of the unknown than we are of things we've seen before. It's a primal fear.

Our brains have built-in strategies to help us cope with these kinds of feelings and situations.

One of these strategies is to assume the worst-case scenario. To try and anticipate the outcome of a situation and prepare yourself for the worst possible outcome.

Another strategy is to avoid situations that make you feel vulnerable.

The problem with this approach is that we often don't know what the outcome of a situation will be. And when we think about the worst-case scenario, we often come up with what could go wrong.

We assume that the other person won't like us, we assume that they'll reject us, that we'll end up alone, that we'll lose friends, and so on.

And we feel awful as a result.

In order to stop the fear of rejection from taking over our lives, we need to embrace the reality of what it means to be rejected.

The reality is that it doesn't mean anything at all.

Rejection is a part of life. It's part of the human experience. It's normal. We are all going to be rejected at some point in our lives. It's part of the process.

You cannot avoid rejection if you want to achieve your goals in life.

Rejection is a part of life. It's part of the human experience. It's normal. We are all going to be rejected at some point in our lives. It's part of the process. You cannot avoid rejection if you want to achieve your goals in life.

The trick is to not let rejection become the defining factor of your life.

If you take away nothing else from this article, remember this. Rejection is a healthy part of the human experience. It's a part of being human. Don't let it define you.

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9 ways to deal with loneliness as a man

Loneliness as a man is something many men are going through right now. It’s especially hard when it’s an unexpected feeling. Men are social beings and having that connection is a key element of mental health and happiness.

Having more friends and family in your life is proven to reduce stress and anxiety. But, men have a harder time connecting with people. Here are some tips to cope with loneliness and be happier:
1. Be honest with yourself. 

There’s nothing wrong with admitting you have feelings of loneliness. Talk about it. Find a friend who’s been there before you and be honest about what’s going on. 

2. Join a sports league.

Sports are proven to be healthy. Sports leagues can help you meet new people and improve your social skills. Just don’t expect it to make you feel better about your loneliness. 

3. Join a club.

Men are less likely to join clubs than women are. That doesn’t mean they’re not still interested in social activities. Look for a club in your area that might interest you. 

4. Find a hobby.

Hobbies and hobbies are a great way to get out of the house and meet new people. It’s also proven to make you happier. (This is also why I love to cook.)

5. Find a community.

Your community might not be a sports team or a hobby club. Maybe it’s a group of men who are trying to break the cycle of divorce in their family. It’s okay if you aren’t sure where to look for your new community. Just start looking and see where your heart takes you. 

6. Take care of yourself.

Loneliness is something that affects everyone differently. It doesn’t mean you don’t care about your loved ones or need to be alone all the time. Everyone’s different. Don’t make yourself sick by being around others when you just want to be by yourself. 

7. Get support.

Find someone you can talk to or get support from about your feelings. A doctor, a priest, or a spouse can all be a good place to start. 

8. Ask for help.

If you’re not sure how to get help, ask for it. Your friends and family can help. Your therapist or a church can help. 

9. Seek professional help.

If you find yourself in a deep state of loneliness or depression, it’s okay to seek professional help. Your family and friends can help you seek help, but only a trained professional can provide the kind of help you really need.

How to deal with loneliness as a woman

Being a lonely woman is a feeling many women experience at one point or another. There are so many reasons for it, whether it’s an empty relationship, lack of job satisfaction, bad luck, or whatever other reason that may be at play. Regardless of why it happens, one thing that is clear is loneliness affects us all in different ways. Many women have trouble dealing with this feeling, whether it’s by isolating themselves in a room with only their thoughts or by taking a walk to clear their heads. For those who struggle with it, it’s important to find healthy ways to cope with loneliness.

It’s tough when you feel alone.

Even if you’re surrounded by people, it doesn’t mean you won’t still feel isolated.

This is especially true for women. Because women tend to relate to each other more than men do, they’re much more likely to feel lonely, especially when they’re not around someone they care about. You may have friends who aren’t necessarily friends you can turn to.

can be tough.

As a result, many women find themselves retreating more and more into themselves.

Bottom line...

it’s important to acknowledge the need for us to find healthy ways to deal with loneliness.

One of the best things you can do is to 

try to connect with others. There are so many ways to do this, whether it’s through a social media platform like Facebook, a chat group, or something else.

You may also be able to find new friends through a volunteer opportunity. There are a number of organizations that help connect women who are going through the same thing. It’s a wonderful way to meet new people while giving back to others.

Whatever the case may be, it’s important to find a way to cope with loneliness and find healthy ways to deal with it.

Strategies for Coping with Isolation and Loneliness After the Coronavirus Pandemic

Social distancing Has had a drastic impact on our lives. Although the lockdown is now over, many people are still experiencing social isolation and loneliness. 

It is crucial that you don't feel ashamed If you find yourself struggle to reintegrate yourself back into society after the pandemic. In fact, it is important to accept that feeling of loneliness and find ways to cope with it.

As the coronavirus pandemic has affected people in different ways, the best way to deal with loneliness is to find ways to connect with people.

Connecting with other people is easier said than done. As an introvert myself, I am not very good at interacting with other people, so if I could avoid it, I would be happy. However, I cannot, so I try to make the most of my time by engaging in various activities to connect with others.

As a result, I've come up with several tips for anyone facing the same problem as me:

Connect with people. When you're feeling lonely or are having a hard time connecting with other people, try to make the most of the time you have. Find a hobby you like or a volunteer activity that interests you. Make friends through online communities. There are plenty of resources online and offline that can help you connect with people.

Give yourself time to decompress. Sometimes, you feel so overwhelmed with everything that's going on, you end up feeling sad or depressed. To cope with this, I usually take a walk around the neighbourhood or go to the park. By doing something you enjoy, it will take your mind off things and help you feel better.

Take care of yourself. During this time, it's also very important to take care of yourself. Go outside, get some fresh air, eat healthy food, and drink water. Try to do something that you enjoy. It will boost your mood and give you a sense of purpose. Also, make sure to sleep enough and stay hydrated.

Get help. If you are feeling too overwhelmed by everything and you can't do anything on your own, ask for help. Ask family members or friends to check on you, bring you some food, or even do your errands. Even if they can't, they will at least understand your situation.

Find a hobby. When you are feeling bored, you might want to look for something that you love to do. If you are feeling lonely and isolated, you might need to find a hobby that makes you feel happier. So, pick something you like to do and focus on it for a few hours. If you're looking for ideas, here are a couple of things you can try:

Start a hobby. If you’re feeling lonely or isolated and you want to feel happier, there is no better way to fix this than by starting a new hobby. It’s been proven that hobbies can improve your life significantly.

If you’re feeling lonely and isolated, you should try to engage in activities that you’ve always enjoyed. However, if you’re still not able to find something you like to do, here are a few suggestions:

Write a book or start a blog. Writing is a great way to express yourself. Not only can it be therapeutic, but it can also be a form of self-discovery.

Start a blog. One of the easiest ways to create a connection with others and express yourself is through writing. This is especially true for introverts. You can share your thoughts and feelings on your blog and let others know about it. You can also connect with other people who share your interests and hobbies.

Learn to sew. Sewing has been proven to reduce stress levels and increase your sense of personal satisfaction. As you learn how to sew, you’ll be able to express yourself through the creation of clothes. You’ll have a unique way to express yourself and it will give you a feeling of accomplishment when you finish.

 

The 4 best ways to deal with loneliness and depression

Lonliness and isolation when you struggle with depression are often seen as a symptom, but they can also be the cause of deeper feelings of inadequacy, guilt and fear. This often leads to more loneliness and depression and is compounded by the fact that many people suffering from depression have no friends or family members who can help them.

In order to combat loneliness and depression, here are four key areas of focus that can help break the cycle of self-loathing:

1. Have social connections

Connections with people in the real world are important for helping you feel better about yourself. When you’re lonely or depressed, it’s easy to blame other people for not making you happy, or to think that you’re the only person who feels this way.

If you can’t afford to make a new friend or meet new people, you can still make meaningful connections. Start by volunteering. Volunteer at places you enjoy and take note of the people you meet and the experiences you share.

In a city with a rich cultural history, you can volunteer at museums, historical societies, or arts venues. Make an effort to find new groups of people to hang out with. Join a book club, start a knitting group, or join a hiking club.

You don’t need to be good at these activities, either. It’s more important that you try something, and keep at it until you find something you enjoy.

2. Keep busy

When you’re lonely and feeling down, your brain craves a distraction. So take up a hobby or find something new to do. You might think you don’t have time, but you’d be surprised at how long it takes to make time for yourself.

Taking care of yourself is important, but spending time with other people, getting exercise, taking a walk, or having fun with your pets can be a healthy distraction.

3. Make time for yourself

People who are lonely and depressed often don’t want to make any changes in their lives, so they avoid doing anything that might make them feel happier.

That’s why you should set aside time every week to do something just for you, whether it’s going to the gym, exercising, reading, or going out for coffee with a friend. Doing these things regularly will help you feel better and reconnect with people who make you feel good.

4. Take care of your physical health

Your body sends signals when you’re lonely and depressed, but it can also be hard to ignore these messages if you’re not eating properly or sleeping enough.

When you’re feeling low, you might skip meals or go to bed late, which can make you feel sluggish and less likely to do the things you need to do.

The next time you feel down, start with a good breakfast, and eat small meals throughout the day. Make sure you get plenty of sleep, because lack of sleep can contribute to feeling tired, stressed, and anxious.

Try to relax and take things one day at a time. You might feel like you’re stuck in a bad mood, but if you give yourself time, you’ll notice that you’ll gradually feel better.

How anxious people cope with lonliness

Social anxiety is one of the biggest reasons for lonliness. It’s a condition where you’re worried about being judged negatively by others, which can lead to avoidance and anxiety about social interactions.

If social anxiety is your reason for feeling lonely,  you can take steps to feel less anxious and less alone. You’ll have to make an effort, though. It takes time, effort, and practice to overcome this problem. And no, just going out and meeting friends won’t cut it. This doesn’t mean you can’t ever go out again. It’s just that you’ll need to start with small steps to gradually make yourself more comfortable. Here are some ideas to help:

1. Keep a diary. Record when you feel most comfortable, what you ate, drank, what you did, and who you spoke to. Make note of your feelings and your physical symptoms of anxiety. These are things you can work on later to help you cope with anxiety.

2. Practice mindfulness. When you notice negative thoughts coming to your head, take a moment and ask yourself what you can do to change those thoughts. Do you really believe what you’re thinking? Do you believe it will cause problems if you don’t act on that thought? Can you think of something positive to say instead?

3. Use a timer. A simple one is to set a time limit on your social interactions. This is especially helpful when you feel overwhelmed by your anxiety and want to avoid social situations altogether.

4. Talk to people. Start with people you feel comfortable around. You can even use apps to meet people online. Talking to someone about your anxiety helps. They can provide tips on how to cope, how to manage your social anxiety, and they can give you ideas on what you should be doing.

5. Seek support. If you’re struggling to cope with social anxiety, you can talk to someone. You can also seek out therapy to learn more about your disorder and learn how to deal with it.

6. Learn to live with it. It’s a difficult thing to learn to do. But eventually, you’ll get the hang of it. In the meantime, you can still meet new people and enjoy yourself. You’ll be fine!

Social situations may contribute to loneliness too

Sometimes the problem of loneliness is caused by the social situations you find yourself in. some social situations like attending a wedding or going on vacation to an unfamiliar place can cause lonliness.  Sometimes a person can feel lonely simply because of the fact that they're living in an area that isn't very friendly.

When we go on vacation, we're often met with strangers. These people who are strangers to us may have never seen us before and are unable to determine whether we are friendly or not. So, they have no idea how to act toward us. This can result in lonliness because we don't know what to expect.

So how do you cope with being in a situation where you don't know what to expect?

Here are some coping mechanisms that will help you:

1.  Stay in the moment. Take the time to acknowledge the situation and notice that you're in it.

2.  Take note of your surroundings. Notice all the details of the situation. Do you notice anything odd about the environment? Are there any smells that stand out? Does the air seem a little chilly? This will allow you to get the lay of the land so that you can get a sense of what to expect from the situation.

3.  Use your senses. As you walk through the place, try to use your senses to see and feel everything that's around you. Do you hear footsteps behind you? Is it a group of people or just a single person? Do you smell anything? Is there a strong scent? Or maybe you can't smell anything, but you can see the people around you. Do they look happy or upset? Are they smiling or frowning? These details can help you to form an opinion of what's going on.

4.  Watch your energy. How does your body feel in this situation? How are you feeling physically? Can you feel a difference between how you're feeling emotionally? Does it feel like you want to stay in this environment or does it feel like you want to get away?

5.  Notice your feelings. Pay attention to your feelings. When you notice your feelings, try to take note of them. Are you anxious or sad? Do you feel frustrated or angry? What are the emotions you are experiencing? Are you aware of your emotions at this moment?

6.  Recognize that everyone has their own experiences. Everyone's life is unique and you are unique. You have your own thoughts, ideas, and experiences. If you are in a situation where you feel lonely, try to accept that everyone is in their own situation. Everyone is dealing with their own feelings and you can't expect to understand exactly what they are going through.

7.  Try to be proactive. If you feel like you are in a situation that makes you feel lonely, it's important to remember that you have the power to change this situation. You can decide if you are comfortable in the situation and you can decide to act differently or leave the situation.

So, what can you do? Try to be proactive and take control of the situation.  Do you feel comfortable in this environment? If not, why is that?

If you are in a situation that makes you feel lonely, it's important to remember that you have the power to change this situation. You can decide if you are comfortable in the situation and you can decide to act differently or leave the situation.

10 powerful things you can do to alleviate loneliness today

Ultimately, the good news is that your brain is very malleable and you can adapt to a variety of circumstances. That being said, here are a few more things you can do to reduce the odds that you become lonely.

1) Strengthen Existing Relationships: You can’t spend all your time trying to meet new people. You need to spend some of your time working on strengthening those you already have. The more positive relationships you have in your life, the less likely you’ll feel lonely. You don’t need to be best friends with everyone you know, but make sure you’re having at least one positive relationship with someone per week.
 
2) Try a New Activity: It's not necessary to join a community to try something new. Sometimes just going out and doing something new can make a big difference in the way you feel. Try something that interests you, whether it's rock climbing, photography, or dancing. Just going out and trying something new can go a long way in helping you overcome loneliness.

3) Join a Group: If you're new to the area, try joining a local club. Find a fitness class that you enjoy and take advantage of the opportunity to meet new people and form new connections. Joining a club or group can give you a great opportunity to find new friends and make new connections.

4) Use Technology to Stay Connected: Technology can be a great tool to use to stay connected with friends and family. There are plenty of ways to do this, whether it's through social media, phone apps, or online services like Skype. It doesn't have to cost anything to stay connected with the people you care about, and can be a lot of fun.

5) Give Something Back: Volunteering and donating to charitable causes can be a great way to meet new people. A simple act of giving can be the highlight of a person's day, and can change the way you see the world around you.

6) Help Others: There's nothing like knowing that you've done a good deed for someone else to make you feel good. If you want to make an impact on the world, volunteering to help others can make a real difference. It doesn't have to be huge. Even a small act of kindness can help make a world of difference.

7) Look Up to Someone: People who are successful often have people who look up to them. You don't necessarily need to become a millionaire or famous to have people look up to you, but make sure you have at least one person who you can look up to. It can be as simple as saying "good morning" to someone every day or spending some time with someone every once in a while.

8) Go to the Gym: You don't need to go to the gym, but getting a little physical activity in your routine can really help. You'll notice you feel better, and it helps burn off some of that stress you might be feeling. If you're feeling particularly lonely, find a way to incorporate some form of exercise into your routine.

9) Be Open to Meeting New People: You can't spend all your time trying to meet new people. You need to spend some of your time working on strengthening those you already have. The more positive relationships you have in your life, the less likely you’ll feel lonely. You don’t need to be best friends with everyone you know, but make sure you’re having at least one positive relationship with someone per week.

10) Make Friends at Church: Don't underestimate the importance of a close relationship with God in our lives. It can provide an incredible source of support and a sense of peace and contentment that will give you the strength to deal with difficult situations.

Resisting the Temptation to Withdraw Further

We all deal with loneliness sometimes. Some of us have to deal with it every day.

But there’s a temptation to pull away from dealing with it. It’s an easy reaction to reach for your phone and ignore everyone else in favour of a few texts or calls. We all have our ways of coping with it, but it doesn’t always work. And it’s never a good idea.

Loneliness has many forms. You can be alone with your thoughts, or alone with your feelings. You can be alone with your friends, or alone with strangers. You can be alone with your family, or alone with yourself.

It can be hard to identify the exact form of loneliness you’re feeling, but it’s always better to face the truth about what’s going on inside you. It’s easier to tackle the root cause, and that means talking to people when you’re feeling lonely. If you don’t reach out, you may find yourself alone for longer than you thought.

 

Written by Adewale Ademuyiwa
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