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There's a very strange thing happening.
Strange in that you are affected by it, but you don't even know it exists.
This strange thing determines the path you take in life. it determines the dynamics within your relationships. It determines the progress you experience at work. It impacts your ability to be confident in yourself. And it has a huge influence on whether you feel calm, peaceful, or happy in your life.
What is this thing?
Here it is...
Over the last 20 years working in the mental health service, I've learnt that relying too much on certain positive habits, positive abilities and coping skills will overload you with insecurity, self-doubt and despondency.
I know that sounds like a wrong thing to say.
But here's a true life example to show you exactly what I mean...
Aron was infuriated with himself.
He couldn't understand why he was terrified about returning to work.
Things couldn't have been better for him.
He'd been promoted from store manager to area manager just in time for his new baby boy to arrive. He had a wonderful wife who was not only supportive but extremely understanding about mental health matters.
What's more, his employers were way too understanding. They were very clear that they valued his input to their business. They told him that he had very good insights into spotting and sorting problems out for them. And that this strength had served their company very well.
They'd even sent him a reassuring letter asking him to take all the time he needed to recover. And that his job would be waiting for him.
So logically, Aron felt he had no reason to be anxious.
But ever since he had that massive panic attack at work, Aron simply couldn't switch off the constant sense of dread niggling away at him.
That was five months ago. Now Aron felt reduced to a shadow of himself. His anxiety had gotten so bad that simple domestic tasks like hoovering the house now triggered panic attacks.
Aron felt even more disappointed in himself because his employers were now suggesting that he could come into work and take a less pressurizing job like helping stocking up the shelves. And then once he felt comfortable, he could gradually work his way back up to area manager. The post was still his.
Whilst Aron knew this was a really kind gesture from his employers, he couldn't get rid of the feeling that accepting this offer would mean that he'd let everyone down.
So when Aron came to me for therapy, He was desperate to overcome his anxiety.
Even more so because his own dad was never around to support him and his mother when he was a kid. He felt disgusted with himself for putting his wife and son through this same torture.
In therapy, we discovered that Aron was falling for the same trap over and over.
And this trap was at the root of his anxiety problems.
What was the trap?
It was that same ability to spot and address potential problems. The same strength which had enabled him to climb the ropes in his career.
Once Aron understood this, and once he had mastered the strategies I will be revealing to you in the moment, his anxiety ceased to be a problem.
Here's what Aron had to say about his recovery.
"After I got the promotion, I began to overthink everything.
I knew I was always over exaggerating things, making a mountain out of a mole hill, but I could not stop myself.
I was massively frustrated with myself. Depressed because my wife had just had a baby and they were both relying on the money I was bringing in.
I Hoped the anxiety would go away. Holding back my emotions and fighting hard to stop myself from cracking. I couldn't stop thinking that I would get sacked if I couldn't pull myself together as my position at work is critical to the smooth running of the stores.
Now my anxiety is no longer non stop.
I still do worry but it's no longer overpowering. I am able to put things in perspective.
Now I might get a little blip of emotions that last a few minutes, but it's no where as bad as it used to be, and it does not scare me anymore because i know what to do to feel better."
You see, as far as Aron was concerned, his tendency to look into the future and address things that could go wrong was just him being himself. That's how he dealt with life. He didn't see it as a strength. In fact, he was surprised when his employers praised him for this.
But you see this strength had become so ingrained that Aron failed to see that it was fueling his anxiety. Because each time he felt anxious he defaulted to pinpointing things in his life that could go wrong so that he could plan for them. And the more he relied on this the more he saw reasons to be anxious.
This was why he always felt like there was a lion poised behind him waiting to pounce on him at any minute.
But...
Is something similar happening to you?
Here's the truth...
Like Aron, If you struggle with anxiety or depression, somewhere along the line you have learnt to associate doing well with being valued. You have tied your sense of self worth to achieving things in your life, in your relationship and at work.
But because those things are not stable, your self-worth becomes unstable like a tidal wave. And that's why no matter how hard you try, the tiniest stress either sends your anxiety through the roof or plummets your mood into a dark pit.
And to make your sense of self worth rock solid, you've got to do three things and do them really well.
What are these three things?
And this is the only way to develop and sustain emotional resilience successfully. This is how you start to cope better emotionally.
I will elaborate on how to do all that in a minute.
But first, just so you don't think this emotional resilience building system is a fluke...
"I’ve tried a lot of the things you’ve told me out. I’m giving it all a go…
And it’s been a bit weird because I didn’t think I’d get results. And some other stuff we talked about, even though it makes sense, it still feels weird because it’s kind of like contradicting everything I've been told in the past. So is just kind of weird, but like a good weird if that makes sense.
At the start, I was confused, because I was like thinking how is this going to help me, but as it session has gone on, I felt it started to make more sense. And when I put into practice, it’s made even more sense. As I saw the results happening,
I would have never have thought toning down your strengths and stuff like that would help me. And I do feel it’s made the difference. My mum’s noticed a difference as well. And I can see how the things we talked about has changed me for the better."
Nope, sorry to disappoint you.
The truth is far less advertising, I'm afraid;
You've heard stories of student doctors dedicating their lives to the mastery of their skill. They study and practice for hours upon hours until they're absolutely confident that when the day comes, they won't kill their patient on the operating table.
Well, that's the same dedication I apply to developing emotional resilience.
To me, it’s not just a tiny hobby I tinker around with on the side. It’s my lifeblood, It’s the air I breathe, maybe even a calling. And I’ve dedicated thousands upon thousands of hours to the mastery of my emotional well-being.
Want to be as good as me?
Well, until recently, you only had two options:
1. Drop everything in your life and think about nothing but how to cope better for the next decade.
2. Pay expert therapists anything from £500 upwards per month, indefinitely until you learn to cope.
If you’re a realistic though, both options are problematic.
First, you have a job and a family, so you can’t just drop everything and become an emotional addict. Second, you likely have too many important financial commitments so you can’t afford to put thousands of pounds down indefinitely.
The solution?
From what I’ve seen, there are two types of people in this emotional battle:
The strugglers: People who keep going through self-destructive loops where they are first energetic, productive or super busy... But then hit painful road bumps that throw them into that anxious, frantic, depressed or angry place.
The controllers: People who've learnt to take back control of the territory depression and anxiety have stolen from them. They can sustain emotional stability despite the difficulties they face. In other words, they are not swimming around blindly. They know how to practically get the results they want.
The problem is, most advice on how to cope out there don’t go beyond scratching the surface, and just repeats what everybody else has said. There’s no unique perspectives that give long lasting solutions for your personal struggles.
And it’s frustrating as hell.
If you’re serious about developing emotional resilience, you don’t want some general and vague advice like just feel gratitude and you'll be happy. I mean, how do you feel gratitude when you wake up depressed or anxious every day? You want a step by step processes to you follow. You want a more hands-on approach.
If you’re serious about coping better emotionally, you’re sick of reading self-help books that offer optimistic words with that damaging " You can do it " attitude. When they offer no real solutions you can apply to your personal situation.
You want a worksheet and a one-page checklist for everything you have to do, broken down into steps you can actually follow and get results now.
If you’re serious about coping better emotionally, you’re tired of wading through thousands of websites, reading contradictory advice, and trying to figure out how to piece it all together. You want someone to just tell you what to do, so you can stop wasting time and get some freaking results.
For the first time, I’m publishing everything I know on how to cope better emotionally.
And these are not some strategies I plucked from the tree somewhere. I will be revealing Evidence-based Strategies carefully chosen from Neuroscience, Behavioural, Science Psychology, and Human Biology.
I will be diving deep into strategies for overcoming negative thinking, dealing with reduced energy and motivation. Developing the mental capacity to cope when faced with unwanted pressure. Learning how to stop freaking out inside when to many difficult situations hit you.
And it's not just a few vague steps either, but nuts and bolts instructions showing you every single step and detail.
In fact, I’m betting you’ll be staggered at how much I give you. Each course includes:
20 minutes to 1-hour worth of video tutorials. This isn’t some beginner-level tutorial teaching you a bunch of stuff you already know. We dive deep into advanced tactics and strategies, giving you real-life examples from myself and my clients, breaking it down so you understand exactly what to do.
Worksheets, video slides, checklists and tons of resources – everything you need to take action and get results fast.
Case examples you can identify with. Giving you first-hand demonstrations of how to use the resilience-building tools I use and recommend. In other words, no more wondering what to do. Instead of stumbling around by yourself, you'll be able to learn from me (Adewale) during our live monthly online workshops.
If you join the Take Back Control Program, you will learn about something I call...
"resilience thieves."
These thieves steal your ability to remain resilient. Like what happened to Aron (the gentle man I introduced to you earlier)
You see, these resilience thieves make it way too easy for you to become stressed, worried or depressed.
These resilience thieves are often operating under the hood. And even if you know there are there, they are so complex that unless someone guides you, you will not know how to begin dealing with them.
And they are three in number.
Watch the 3 short video clips below to learn about to deal with these three resilience thieves.
These video snippets give you a flavor of what you' will get in the Take Back Control Program
These are the kinds of things you will learn.
How to overcome the feeling of overwhelm: Build your mental capacity to cope under pressure when you feel like you're in a hole with the dirt caving in around you because too many things are on top of you.
How to get unstuck from repetitive negative situations: How to move forward productively with your life and avoid bad decisions that dump you in never-ending feelings of despondency.
How to become emotionally stronger: How to become resilient to emotions like anxiety, depression, and anger so you are not constantly on the verge of tears because of little things.
Overcoming habitual negative thinking: How to take control and talk yourself down from your mind becoming too chaotic. Especially when medication is not helping you with this.
How to get rid of the feeling of inadequacy: Tips and strategies for uprooting destructive self-belief systems and boosting your self-confidence permanently.
Advanced strategies for developing emotional resilience: How to avoid getting to your breaking point.
Good question.
With videos running for a minimum of 30 minutes to 1 hour, we’ll go into much greater depth than we can in a typical 2,000 word blog post.
We’ll talk a lot more about how to do everything, instead of just telling you what to do. You’ll also receive worksheets, checklists and any other supplementary materials we think are helpful.
These are also much more advanced topics.
On the blog, we’re forced to cater to absolute beginners who are just starting to find their footing around emotional health content on the web. All they want is a few basic tips, not in-depth material designed to help them achieve mastery over their condition.
But if that’s all you needed, you’d already be uber-successful at coping, right?
That’s why we created The Take Back Control Membership site: to help you get to the next level. And yes, that involves giving you more advanced training, but it also means upping your game. We’re not going to water down the content or hover around and make sure you do the homework.
It’s time to get serious and do the work to break through.
When you first started, you were probably happy with all the free content on the web. It was all you could handle.
Now though, you might be feeling like a lot of the posts out there are a little… fluffy. They give you a lot of ideas, but they don’t give you step-by-step details on exactly how to do it and get results.
If that’s the case,it’s time for you to “graduate” And Take Back Control. You’re ready.
Everything I give you in Taking Back Control is compact.
No webinars to attend just to be given a few basic morsels, no interviews listening to people go on tangents hours and hours on end. I hate that as much as you do.
So, instead, I give you videos and transcripts teaching you all the important things you need to know and nothing else. You also get checklists to help remind you what to do, making it easier for you to take action without watching the videos again and again.
You get resources that tell you what tools to use, with links and recommendations, and tutorials that show you how to things, step-by-step.
You get a private, hidden Facebook group where you can talk to other people who are learning to cope better.
And to top it up, you also get my personal support. Twice a month, I hop online with you in our dedicated online workshop to answer your questions and go even deeper. This is just an added extra to ensure that you are totally covered.
So, you’ll be getting…
Video tutorials, audio downloads and transcripts.
Checklists and work sheets that help take you through each strategy step by step.
Cheat sheets full of real example of how you can apply the strategies to yourself
Private hidden face book group to discuss with others who can relate with what you are going through
Online workshops and Question and answer sessions with me (Adewale). To ensure that you don’t get stranded by anything you don’t understand.
Another difference:
I only teach concepts I actually use. Concepts that I have witnessed working on myself and my clients. Anything else would be kinda dishonest.
Here are just a few testimonials from former clients who've learnt to apply the strategies You'll be learning
"I thought it was like the end of the world, I was so heavy I felt overloaded in my heart and in my brain and it was like I was stuck with everything... If not for my kids, I would have committed suicide. Sometimes I was crying without even knowing why I was crying...
Now I don’t feel overloaded anymore. I feel quite calm. I’m getting better about my thinking. No longer latching onto things I can’t control. I’m no longer worried...
Now it’s like I’ve taken off the load I was carrying. I stopped blaming myself with things like I was doing before."
Clarisa, a former client who was diagnosed with dyslexia and depression from an early age
"The sessions have helped me to stop over analysing everything. I am now not getting overly stressed, which has had the effect of helping me manage my depression better.
I have been able to wean myself off my antidepressants, obviously with my doctor’s guidance.
Now for the first time in ten years, I have been off my antidepressants for almost a month, and I am still feeling better than I have ever felt in a long while. In the past, my depression would come back with full force within just one week of stopping my meds.
What’s strange is that my anxiety is also reduced even though I have been stressed beyond belief. My sleep has improved too..."
James , a former client who was avoiding returning to work for fear that he would not cope. He had an emotional meltdown because the pressure at work became too much and had to be off work for just over 10 months.
"These sessions have helped me gain confidence to stop avoiding things that make me feel vulnerable. I have been able to face those things and still feel more relaxed than I ever thought I could be.
I'm finding that I am becoming more positive and not so down on myself.
I now realize that I am not a complete failure and this is making myself esteem better. I have also been dropping things that were sapping away my self-esteem. Things that I used to rely heavily on but did not know they were causing my problem."
James is now back at work functioning a lot better.
Now, I could list hundreds more, but you get the point, right? In fact, you might be wondering how much advice from someone like me is going to cost.
Let’s talk about that next.
Imagine for a moment that I’m coming to visit you. Since you’re a subscriber to StressTherapist.net, I call you up and ask if you’d like to go out to dinner.
“Can I ask you a few questions on how to cope better emotionally?” you ask.
“Sure,” I say.
“If you’ll pick up the check, I’ll let you ask me anything you want. We can even go somewhere cheap like TGI Fridays or Pizza hut.”
Would you take me up on it?
Or here’s an even better question:
What If I offered to come to your town and have dinner with you every month, teaching you everything I know about coping better emotionally, wouldn’t you joyfully continue buying me dinner month after month for as long as it took?
Well, that’s essentially the deal I’m offering you here.
Available today only!
Your membership fee to access Take Back Control and learn everything I know about coping emotionally is...
Just a measly £15 per month # You pay only £1 today for the first month #.
About the same price as a cheap dinner for two.
(After today the price goes back up to £49 per month)
In the past, I’ve charged ultra-premium prices for each of my programs. The least expensive course we offered was £280 for just a weekend and it was fully subscribed – a steep price if you’re a struggling to make ends meet. We have intensive programs that cost a minimum of £500 per month.
So, there’s no mathematical reason to lower our prices.
But this community isn’t about math. It’s about something else entirely:
Creating a home.
Right now, there isn’t a place on the web for people like us.
Sure, the web is overflowing with self-help advice, but nearly all of it is targeted at people who have been hit so bad by their mental health that they are either struggling to function or no longer functioning in society again.
But you and me? We’re different.
You see in the past, when I was struggling with my anxiety, I looked like I had it all together. I was functioning well enough that on the outside no one knew. But this meant I had to suffer in silence.
In fact, all the services that existed at the time, only catered to people who were struggling so bad that they were not functioning at all. So, it felt like I had no business accessing those services because they’d never believe me.
So, I spent over 20 years learning how to cope better. Blundering through trial and error. Making so many mistakes.
Boy, I would have quite easily given my arm for a community, catering to the needs of people who were high functioning although struggling with anxiety or depression. People who could tell me the pitfalls to avoid, or the best strategies to try.
And, the great news…
Up until now, you might’ve thought you were alone. The truth is though, there are thousands of people like us. We just haven’t had a place to gather.
Until now.
The Taking Back Control membership program is the home of People who are serious about developing emotional resilience. Each and every one of our members dedicated to mastering their mental well-being.
So...
If you said yes to any of this, then the Taking Back Control Program is for you.
Here is a glimpse of the what you can expect from the Taking Back Control community.
Feedback from one of our members who attended one of our live retreats.
Here ‘s a glimpse from Ruby, who attended one of our live membership retreat. This highlighting how our members feel about our emotional resilience building program:
“Oh, what a wonderful time we've had, I thank God for the opportunity, it was a gift that I didn't take for granted.
I miss my retreat family already. We formed strong bonds, we listened to one another, we motivated one another. We were all that we needed to one another during that time, which was great.
The retreat rekindled something inside of me, a warm feeling and stimulated and challenged my mind a great deal, in a positive way. I'm sure I'm already changed by the experience even though I cannot claim evidence of it at the moment but I know I'm not the same person who walked in that place…
Thank you very much to the team”
But just so you don’t think this is a fluke…
Here ‘s a glimpse from Donnette, highlighting how our members feel about our emotional resilience building program:
Will you love the Taking Back Control membership program as much?
I’d like to think so, but there’s no way for me to know for sure. So, that’s why I’m making it easy for you to try it out.
Sign up today, check out the training materials for 30 days For Only £1 and decide what you think (Offer only available for three days).
If you’re not overjoyed with the content, let us know, and we’ll issue you a refund. No questions asked, no delays and you can keep the content for the month. And the money goes right back into your account.
You can also cancel your account at any time.
You don’t even have to talk to us. You just send us an email to cancel and you’ll never be billed again. Ever.
The bottom line?
There’s absolutely no risk for giving this a try. If you want in, just click the button below.
You might be thinking, “Well, I’m just getting started. Maybe I’ll potter around by myself for a while, see if I can figure out how to cope. Then I’ll come back to this later. “
But that’s a mistake. Here’s why:
It’ll take you ten times as long. You’ll run into a simple problem, and you’ll waste days or even weeks trying to figure it out. Fore example, you might choose the wrong strength to focus on, which will have a nasty impact on your life. Potentially causing more pain and failure. Bringing you back to where you started.
My free emotional resilience plan can save you from some of that. Not all of it – learning anything is still going to be a struggle – but what if I save you a few years of frustration? What would that be worth to you?
And here’s the real question:
If you’re not willing to commit to £15 in order to avoid a life of pain and mistakes that dump you in negative cycles of self-doubt and overwhelm, then honestly this is not for you. And we would simply waste each other’s time.
I don’t say that to be mean. It’s just the honest truth.
Think about it this way:
You were willing to spend four years in college, right? Maybe you finished, maybe you didn’t, but the idea of dedicating four years of your life and tens or even hundreds of thousands of pounds to school didn’t seem ridiculous.
So why should this be any different?
Learning to cope emotionally is the best education you can ever have, and it requires as much study and honestly it should be massively expensive to.
Can I promise you’ll become a genius at coping emotionally? No. The only person that can make that promise is YOU.
You have to decide how serious you are. You’re either in this to win, or you’re not.
So, what’s it going to be?
